I am a parent of a girl who struggles. You may know a boy. You may know a girl who has a boy. Or, you may be that boy.
I know Violet. She has been put into my life to challenge what I thought I knew. She has taught me more about myself in her 12 years than I could have learned in 25. It is the most dire feeling, self reflective, opportunity for growth I have ever faced. And, it's never-ending. My love for her is unconditional. I learn my deficits and I nurture my strengths. It puts strains on my marriage, my other kids, my feelings of myself. And I love her for it. She has taught us all empathy we never could have known.
Violet has gone through a lifetime of trials at 12 years old. She has emotional issues that have plagued her since infancy. Navigating this struggle has exposed me to profound experiences. I have this feeling of such gratitude for what we have learned.
I want to be open and share. I want to inspire others to share. I want 'shame' to have it's ass kicked out of this conversation.
There is comfort in knowing how common these issues are. Once I started talking about it? Literally 1 out of every 2 parents I spoke to had an experience to share. So here we are - a space where we can ask questions, get resources, understand more and be inspired to have hope, resiliency, pride and proactivity. Call it what you want - parent community? Resource sharing? A no judgment, open, raw, unfiltered, vulnerable dose of reality?
Emotional issues. Behavioral challenges. Disorders. Traumas. Let's have the conversation no one is having. I want to help parents help their kids and themselves. It will make ME feel better!
You are not alone.